I saw this on YouTube and thought it might motivate you not to quit.
Monday, August 4, 2008
Learn Ways to Motivate Yourself
By Jennie Gandhi
Being motivated in life is quite difficult with showers of sadness and sorrow that soak us from time to time. You just struggle out of one stormy weather only to get into another. At this time the mind conjures negative emotions and with increasing bitter incidents it gets ugly.
For instance you start your own business, but burn your fingers and when you try to withdraw you only realize you are neck deep in debt. So how do you overcome such untoward accidents? Well as it is said, 'it's all in the mind'.
If you are feeling negative, your mind builds a consortium of negativity, but if there have positive thoughts then your mind will flood you with all the goodness in the world. So how do you shift the direction of your mind?
First understand yourself and your thoughts. Learn what situations pinch you and what bring a smile to your face. So for instance when in a bad mood you meet your friends baby on the way and play with it, suddenly you have forgotten all your worries, then you know what calms you. Similarly know what triggers your emotion and try to keep away from it.
There are basically three foundational reasons why you lose motivation in life.
a) Lack of confidence - So you want to learn cooking but create a blunder every time you enter the kitchen. Now you think you are not fit to be in the kitchen and give up. Moreover if someone says that you are horrible in the kitchen it adds to your gloominess and increases negativity. All this is simply because you lose confidence in yourself.
b) No focus - You do not know what it is it you want. You are giving all your attention to the things you do not have. A designer dress, coveted furniture or that pricey promotion. This makes you jealous of people who posses those things and changes your attitude towards them.
c) The direction - you do not know where you are heading. You want to buy a house but do not know which one to pick. You finding it difficult to arrange for the down payment and so are in panic. This occurs because you are not taking one step at a time. You lacked homework and are now in the lurch.
Now that you know the reasons lets look at the solutions.
a) Build your confidence - list down all your positive aspects and the negative aspects. Now look at how you can better your positive and cut down the negativity. Read books on how to get better, exercise and eat healthy. Look into the mirror daily and say, 'yes I can do it!' Then you can cook or do whatever you want.
b) Increase concentration - whenever your mind wanders away try to get it back on track. Your mind follows a pattern; once you can crack the pattern you can amend it too. Think of yourself as you have the dress, the furniture you dream of or the promotion you seek and soon you will have it.
c) Know where you are heading - write the list of things you want to do. Then take up one at a time and study it thoroughly. Make up your mind on do's and don'ts. Take some professional help if you need. So if you want to buy a house, what is the first step? Sought out your money and put everything in writing. This serves as a ready reckoner whenever you want to fall back on it.
Always remember there is no one perfect in this world. So do not be disheartened if you do not succeed. Be yourself and improve yourself - your dreams are then not far away.
Let your peers enhance your motivation level through communication, wisdom and team building activities. Motivation helps in improving your communication skills, enhancing confidence and achieving success.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com
Welcome!
Hello, my name is Anna Allen and I a single mother of three wonderful children. I was in an emotionally abusive marriage for 10yrs and decided I did not want to put my kids through that so I kicked my husband out.
At first, I was very scared. I did not know what I was going to do. My husband was the bread winner. In fact, I only worked from home, occassionally selling things on eBay or Craigslist. I also tried my hand in affiliate marketing. I sold some things but not as much as I'd like.
In any case, I needed a 'regular' income; one that would pay the bills because my husband refused to give me child support. I was forced to go on Cash Aid so that I could feed my children. I have nothing against welfare, but I had a lot of pride and did not want to resort to that. But, since I had trouble finding a job and my husband not giving me any child support, left me with no choice. So, I swallowed my pride and went to the welfare office with my head held down. I felt like such a failure for having to resort to asking the county for help, but I had to think about my kids and not my pride.
When I kicked my husband out, my brother, who was living with us at the time (my husband's idea) told me I did not have to worry about my finances because he would help me till I got on my feet. My brother (who witnessed the emotional abuse my husband conflicted on me) did not want me to feel I HAD to stay with my husband for financial reasons. As much as I appreciated the help, I did not want to take advantage of him in that way, at least not for a long time. So, when I did kick my husband out, the bills piled up and my brother helped me as he promised.
The thing is, not only did my brother help me financially, he was a huge help mentally. Now, I'm sure you can imagine how distraught I was not being able to pay my own bills and provide for my children. I was depressed and had very low self esteem. I was a very negative person. I was not fun to be around. I hated myself. That's the damage my husband did to me. The constant cutdowns, fits of anger and other parts of emotional abuse took its toll on me. For years that's the kind of thing my mind was fed. So when I kicked my husband out, I was scared, angry, felt sorry for myself and had no motivation.
So, my brother, Fabian (I might as well tell you his name since I've mentioned him several times) talked to me for a long time and continued to do so on a regular basis. Being that he lived with us, he knew most of what I'd been through. So, he began trying to get me to see things differently. He took it upon himself to try to motivate me, and it worked. He fed my mind on self help information. He had me listen to self help CD's and read books on ways to think positive and motivate myself. At first I did not want to take the time to listen to the CD's and I sure didn't want to read any books. But, he didn't give up on me. He encouraged me and kept gently pushing me towards getting the help I needed.
All I can say is, "It worked!" I've done other things as well, but if I have to credit any one thing for my motivation, it was my brother. Of course wanting to get well and be able to provide for my children was also motivation, but aside from that, it was my brother, Fabian. So Thank You Fabian! You are my rock!
So now that I'm now a woman full of motivation, I decided to create this blog to help others who need to be motivated as well. I know it's hard. Like I said, I've been there and done that. But my goal is to provide you with helpful articles and other resources (most of which I used myself) to aid you in your road to recovery and motivation. I promise to do my best and keep this blog current. As you know we all have lives and get busy, but like I said, I will do my best to keep this current and a place where people can come to get the motivational resources they need. If I can help one person then all the hard work will be worth it.
Good Luck to you,
Anna
At first, I was very scared. I did not know what I was going to do. My husband was the bread winner. In fact, I only worked from home, occassionally selling things on eBay or Craigslist. I also tried my hand in affiliate marketing. I sold some things but not as much as I'd like.
In any case, I needed a 'regular' income; one that would pay the bills because my husband refused to give me child support. I was forced to go on Cash Aid so that I could feed my children. I have nothing against welfare, but I had a lot of pride and did not want to resort to that. But, since I had trouble finding a job and my husband not giving me any child support, left me with no choice. So, I swallowed my pride and went to the welfare office with my head held down. I felt like such a failure for having to resort to asking the county for help, but I had to think about my kids and not my pride.
When I kicked my husband out, my brother, who was living with us at the time (my husband's idea) told me I did not have to worry about my finances because he would help me till I got on my feet. My brother (who witnessed the emotional abuse my husband conflicted on me) did not want me to feel I HAD to stay with my husband for financial reasons. As much as I appreciated the help, I did not want to take advantage of him in that way, at least not for a long time. So, when I did kick my husband out, the bills piled up and my brother helped me as he promised.
The thing is, not only did my brother help me financially, he was a huge help mentally. Now, I'm sure you can imagine how distraught I was not being able to pay my own bills and provide for my children. I was depressed and had very low self esteem. I was a very negative person. I was not fun to be around. I hated myself. That's the damage my husband did to me. The constant cutdowns, fits of anger and other parts of emotional abuse took its toll on me. For years that's the kind of thing my mind was fed. So when I kicked my husband out, I was scared, angry, felt sorry for myself and had no motivation.
So, my brother, Fabian (I might as well tell you his name since I've mentioned him several times) talked to me for a long time and continued to do so on a regular basis. Being that he lived with us, he knew most of what I'd been through. So, he began trying to get me to see things differently. He took it upon himself to try to motivate me, and it worked. He fed my mind on self help information. He had me listen to self help CD's and read books on ways to think positive and motivate myself. At first I did not want to take the time to listen to the CD's and I sure didn't want to read any books. But, he didn't give up on me. He encouraged me and kept gently pushing me towards getting the help I needed.
All I can say is, "It worked!" I've done other things as well, but if I have to credit any one thing for my motivation, it was my brother. Of course wanting to get well and be able to provide for my children was also motivation, but aside from that, it was my brother, Fabian. So Thank You Fabian! You are my rock!
So now that I'm now a woman full of motivation, I decided to create this blog to help others who need to be motivated as well. I know it's hard. Like I said, I've been there and done that. But my goal is to provide you with helpful articles and other resources (most of which I used myself) to aid you in your road to recovery and motivation. I promise to do my best and keep this blog current. As you know we all have lives and get busy, but like I said, I will do my best to keep this current and a place where people can come to get the motivational resources they need. If I can help one person then all the hard work will be worth it.
Good Luck to you,
Anna
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